Relationships are challenging. People and relationships evolve over time. It can be a bit like hitting a moving target or trying to understand something that’s constantly changing. While relationships can be hard to manage, a good relationship is worth the effort.
A good relationship can have amazing benefits, but an unhealthy relationship can be worse than being alone.
How can you tell if your relationship is a good one? There isn’t a foolproof method for scoring a relationship, here are 8 signs of a healthy relationship that you can think about.
Look for these 8 signs
Balance will mean different things to different relationships. But overall, is the relationship fair? Is each party committing the same overall effort or is one party consistently getting the better end of the deal?
Both parties feel free to share their feelings and concerns honestly and openly. It’s no fun to be in a relationship where you feel you must keep your pain and concerns to yourself. How open can you be with your partner? Are you comfortable sharing any issue?
Three: A shared long term goal
For a relationship to thrive over the long-haul, it’s important that there be a common objective. That objective might involve children and a life in the suburbs. Or, it might be retiring at age 40 and travelling the world.
Do you both want the same things 10 years or more from now? People’s outlooks and goals can change over time, are you both still on the same page?
Good relationships are fun. Do you regularly have fun with your partner? Do you like sharing the same space together?
Do you have fun in your relationship or do you depend on your friends for fun and entertainment? What interests do you share? How do you spend your time together? Is the time you spend together enjoyable?
Mutual respect is essential in any healthy relationship. Without respect, one person will be mistreated or minimized. Do you respect each other enough that both of you feel valued and important?
Six: How you settle conflicts
Conflicts arise in any relationship. Settling conflicts fairly and respectfully is part of any healthy relationship. It’s just as important to be able to let go of any resentment that resulted from the conflict.
Holding on to anger is poison to the future of the relationship. How do you solve issues in your relationship? Do these types of conversations make your relationship stronger or more fragile?
Do you accept each other as you are? Some partners enter into a relationship with the objective of changing the other person to better suit their way of looking at things. This tactic never works in the long term.
If you can’t accept your partner as they are (or they cannot accept you!), consider finding someone else.
Do keep in mind that no one is perfect, and you’ll never find the perfect partner!
Relationships are work. If one or both parties aren’t committed to making things work, the relationship is unlikely to survive. How much of a priority is the relationship to both of you? Most relationships can be successful if the level of commitment is high enough.
So how did you do? Healthy relationships are an important part of a full and happy life. Unhealthy relationships can create misery and hardship. Ensure that your relationships are adding something positive to your life.
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